Music is not only used as a means to entertain themselves, but also can be used as a way to strengthen the bond between children and parents.
Researcher Lisa Huisman Koops called this parenting musically.
More clearly, Koops said, in this type of parenting, parents use music for various children’s activities. For example, the mother can sing when accompanying a child to brush her teeth, or the father who plays the song when Saturday morning playing with the child. Children can also sing songs with family. By involving music in daily activities, parents can develop the child’s identity.
Meanwhile, some parents also use music in conjunction with children for transitions and rituals, and many parents also use music to improve spirituality.
On the other hand, an article published in UA News Arizona said, young children, both girls and boys who spend time enjoying music with parents have a better relationship when they are adults.
“If you have small children, and you play music with them, you will be closer to them, even when they have grown up in the future,” said UA Department of Communication professor Jar Harwood.
However, if the child has grown up and you can still listen to music together, you will have a stronger relationship in the future, continued Harwood. Not only that, Harwood also said that the child’s perspective about relationships will also improve when having a good relationship with parents.
This is supported by a study in the Journal of Family Communications. The study involved groups of children aged 21 years, related to their relationship with their parents about music. The participants reported, there are memories and experiences they have gone through as a child when they were 8, 13, and 14 years old. In fact, the participants also revealed a good relationship with their parents at this time.
Harwod explained, there are two things that are the reasons why music can build good relations between parents and children. These two things are coordination and empathy.
“Synchronization or coordination is something that happens when people play music or listen to music together,” Harwood said.
Data shows that you will like each other more when listening to music with parents, and synchronize it with other activities such as singing or dancing. While empathy is a factor that builds strong relationships between parents and children.
Wallace said that many recent studies have shown that music can increase emotional levels to be more empathetic when listening to parents.
However, does this parenting musically involve formal music education?
The Conversation says that it depends on the decisions of each family. Parents can communicate with children related to their ideals and desires. It is important not to force children to do something.